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Girl adopted by white couple thanks them for loving her as their own

April 8th, 2021

There’s a beautiful story circulating the ‘net about a young, black, South African woman who was adopted by a white couple.

Racism is almost a way of life for a lot of South Africans and unfortunately, it’s becoming more obvious in other parts of the world as well. But Mandisa Mlitwa has a story that proves not everyone cares about the color of someone else’s skin.

Love is blind.

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Wikipedia / William Shakespeare Source: Wikipedia / William Shakespeare

You’ve probably heard that saying. Maybe you’ve even said it yourself.

According to Phrases.org.uk, here’s some interesting background on it.

Around 1405, Chaucer wrote the Merchant’s Tale, and in it he penned a phrase that would become famous.

“For loue is blynd alday and may nat see.”

Very few of us read or understand old English, but you should be able to decipher that.

Later, Shakespeare used the term, to the point where many assume he originated it. He used the phrase in Two Gentlemen of Verona, Henry V, and also in The Merchant of Venice, where Jessica says,

“But love is blind, and lovers cannot see.”

Granted, neither author is talking about familial love—the love you have for your family members. But the principle is the same.

Mandisa Mlitwa, a black girl, is adopted by a white couple.

She doesn’t share how old she was when she was adopted, nor does she tell us how she lost her birth parents, but it’s clear she was loved by them in some of the photos she’s shared on her Facebook.

Posted by Mandisa Zenaya Mlitwa on Sunday, November 15, 2020

But whatever the circumstance, she wound up with another set of parents who loved her dearly and unconditionally, despite the color of her skin.

Is love really blind, or does it just choose to ignore?

Ngineynkinga eyningi but ububi is not one of them😂❤❤

Posted by Mandisa Zenaya Mlitwa on Monday, November 16, 2020

Personally, I believe it just chooses to ignore. Because being blind indicates you don’t even see or notice differences like skin color. I think we notice, but it just doesn’t matter. And that comes from someone who is the child of mixed-race parents. I know what color skin each of my parents have. I’m not blind to it, it simply doesn’t matter in any way that really counts. At least to me. I realize that others may feel differently.

Having said that, it seems science disagrees with me.

A study done by University College London finds that love is blind.

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Piqsels Source: Piqsels

The BBC reported on the study that was initially published in NeuroImage. They state,

“Scientists have shown that there is a degree of truth in the old adage that love is blind.

They have found that feelings of love lead to a suppression of activity in the areas of the brain controlling critical thought.

It seems that once we get close to a person, the brain decides the need to assess their character and personality is reduced.”

The article goes even further to say that,

“The researchers found that both romantic love and maternal love produce the same effect on the brain.

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Mandisa Zenaya Mlitwa via Facebook Source: Mandisa Zenaya Mlitwa via Facebook

They suppress neural activity associated with critical social assessment…”

Did Mlitwa’s adoptive parents simply “suppress neural activity associated with critical social assessment”, or did they understand and reject “critical social assessment?”

I think they rejected it.

Posted by Mandisa Zenaya Mlitwa on Saturday, March 27, 2021

Mandisa recently took to Facebook to express her thanks for the parents of her heart. And the love that they had and have for her. She’s lost her adoptive mother to cancer, but she says her dad hugs her every morning. And this elderly white man has even gone to the extent of helping her wash her black girl hair.

I don’t think there is any doubt this man loves his daughter, regardless of the fact she isn’t his biologically, and her skin is a different color than his.

Posted by Mandisa Zenaya Mlitwa on Saturday, March 27, 2021

In her post, Mandisa talks about how people assume her dad is her sugar daddy when they are out together. Fortunately, she takes this with a sense of humor. You can read more about it in her full post here:

I wanna take this opportunity and thank God, for putting these wornderful people in my path. I am an adopted child❤ i…

Posted by Mandisa Zenaya Mlitwa on Saturday, March 27, 2021

In a world where we’re hearing more and more about racism, this is a beautiful story, and it’s nice that so many people are sharing it.

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